Now that I have 23 months under my belt, I’m obviously an expert on parenting. Ok, maybe not, but I am grateful for having such a happy daughter and although I can’t take full credit, we’re doing some things right. Other than being one myself, I don’t have a lot of experience with fatherhood so I wasn’t sure what the right roadmap was for me. None of this is suggests this is the right approach for every father, it’s just the roadmap that I ended up writing for myself along the way.
- Never raise your voice in front of your child
- Never let your child cry more than 30 s econds without comforting her.
- Ask questions and listen, even if you don’t understand what she’s saying.
- Go to the library together and read every day
- Write her letters for her to open up when she’s older.
- Remember, she will measure all other men against you.
- Sing and dance no matter how atonal or uncoordinated
- Make tents and conjure all of your imaginary forces
- Teach her about animals, how to respect them.
- Practice with stuffed animals
- Be the bath time parent
- Take pictures together and talk about themwith her
- Listen to good music with her, not just kid music.
- Remember, she will repeat the things that you say.
- Be affectionate to others in front of her.
- Let her create her play, her own way
- Help her see how her actions impact other people.
- Remember, Santa is scary at 12 months old
- Don’t worry what other parents think about you.
- Measure your success by your child’s trust and happiness.
- Surround yourself with parents that share your values.
- Model compassion, create structure – don’t worry about discipline
- Let her be messy – just about everything can be sprayed off in the bath
- Be playful, learn about who she is through laughter
- Take her outside, teach her about the moon, let her pick the flowers
{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }
Great points, Peter. My baby girl turned 3 last week. This is such a fun ride… But it's going by so fast!
Peter. You nailed it. I have never felt so free to make a complete fool out of myself, laughing, singing, dancing, and playing with my daughter everywhere we go. And as much as I teach and impress her, she does more for me. I am constantly amazed everyday. Now we have our second daughter here and i am looking forward to twice work, but four times the fun.
Kris.